I’ve been having discussions over the last couple of weeks with Mr M about what we tell people when we announce we’re pregnant. We’ve definitely decided that we won’t tell people it’s an egg donation baby, as we want to wait until we can tell our child about it and not risk them finding out from someone else. But I at least want to tell people that it was IVF. Mr M doesn’t though. For me, this journey has been so so hard (even though we’ve been lucky in so many ways that each stage has been successful and it worked on our first attempt), and I hate the idea that we are going to lie about how we fell pregnant and pretend it was natural (and easy) when I’ve been through so much to get to this point. I’m a talker and have always been really open with my friends, so to not be able to discuss my menopause diagnosis and everything that came after feels really hard. But Mr M thinks if we tell people it was IVF, it will open up lots of questions and what if we can’t answer them because it hasn’t been a normal IVF. I think particularly for him it’s because some friends of ours are thinking about going down the IVF route so we’d expect lots of questions from them. I can definitely see his point; we might just end up tying ourselves up in knots. But it still feels really hard for me to just say ‘Hey, we tried and we’re pregnant. Easy peasy’! But it’s taking all the joy out of thinking about telling people, so we’ve decided to just go with saying it was natural. Even though it was anything but! [EDIT: 24-Feb-18: We’ve been telling everyone over the last week and now it doesn’t feel important about how we got pregnant or telling people it’s IVF. It’s just so lovely to be able to share our news.]